Daddy’s Girl

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Every year Fathers Day has been a day of pain and bitterness for me.

I’d go to great lengths to “skip” that day.

On this holiday I knew that my dad would be patting himself on the back in a congratulatory manner for the years of abuse I had endured at his hands. I found it so offensive.

And my sons father wasn’t much better.

As far as I was concerned, fathers were a big disappointment.

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Occasionally I would hear a song by another woman dedicated to her father, or a man dedicated to his daughter and they nearly always brought tears to my eyes.

Tears of grief and loss, knowing I would never have that or be able to sing a song like it.

Once, in an attempt to have something that was not there, I made a recording of the song “Butterfly Kisses” for my dad on a cassette tape and gave it to him. It was like pulling teeth just to get him to listen to it.

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I woke up at the crack of dawn for a week, without any particular reason or special occasion, to cook him a good breakfast before he left for work so that maybe he’d spend some quality time talking with me for breakfast and wouldn’t be in such a rush to get out the door.

He barely ate, didn’t sit down, and still left in a rush.

I don’t remember what happened to the tape, but I do remember feeling brushed off.

I daydreamed about a dad who would cheer me on at ballet recitals and be my support through persuing my acting/singing dream. I even wished for a father who would take some interest in the guys I dated and the dances I wanted to go to and who I had a crush on. I especially needed some guidance and a push when I was graduating high school and should have been applying for colleges.

I needed a dad!!!

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I would have been so close to my dad, given half a chance!

I maintain that I always should have been a daddy’s girl, Just not with the one I had.

This Fathers Day, however, brings a ray of hope!!

As I eliminate the toxic relationships from my life, it has made room for new healthy ones.

A friendship has formed and developed into a very special bond.

The empty space in my heart that once ached for a father I find being filled more and more every day.

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The songs that used to bring so much pain and sadness before, now spark a sense of new found joy and excitement from deep within.

He has become my friend and mentor, and in many ways, the father I never had.

Though he never taught me to ride a bike, or sat with me to do homework, I already know he would have.

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He has shown me that there are good people still in this world, and how to trust again. There was absolutely no reason for him to stick around, and every reason for him to walk away, yet he stayed.

He showed me the meaning of loyalty.

He showed me what honor and kindness is.

He showed me that a man can be compassionate, gentle, nurturing, and loving without bad motives.

He showed me what a real man is.

He showed me what real love is.

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He has been there through my ups and downs.

He’s seen me through some really hard times.

He’s been there while I’ve been very sick, and he’s seen me grieve.

He’s never once judged me or made me feel bad for being me.

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He’s seen me at my absolute worst, and still finds reason’s to make me smile.

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He makes me want to be my absolute best!!

I want to be just like him!

My eyes fill with tears and my heart swells with emotion as I write this because I never in a million years thought I’d see the day when I could put my all in and say from the bottom of my heart

CHEERS!

TO THE GREATEST FATHER IN THE WORLD!

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Divinity

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Fate

Our fate led us here.

Our past, Our pain, Our Journey’s

All dancing in a beautifully timed rhythm, destined to meet at this single point!

This Moment.

We could have given up.

Heaven knows we have all had our moments.

Yet somehow, instead of being as broken or as damaged as we believe,

WE RISE!

Like a Phoenix from the ashes, strength pulsing through us to our core.

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The very presence of air in our lungs, is a medal of honor, and we wear it bravely.

We fall

We crash

We burn

We cry

We ache

But we still have the strength to FEEL something!

With hearts of armor- formerly battered, tortured & broken,

they RESILIENTLY beat on!

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We are the soldiers forged in a battlefield of the worst kind of hatred.

We will wield the endourance of the most seasoned veteran, and lead the next generation into the future.

We are strength!

We are Hope!

We are Deserving!

We are Beautiful!

We are Worthy!

We are Lovable!

Today is better than yesterday!

It is Yours!

It is Mine!

Today is OURS!

So Dance, Smile, Twirl!

This is nothing short of DIVINITY!

A reason to breathe,

To really BREATHE!

And to

SMILE!